Happy Sunshiny day ladies! Overcoming battles, rising above, pushing through….all thee and more on Emanating Sunshine today. I spent years feeling like I didn’t measure up and clawed my way through the weeds to where I am. A woman with daddy issues, middle child syndrome, and health issues. I have defied the odds, I have rose to heights beyond my wildest dreams. How you ask?! Determination and grit girl!!! My school years I was picked on for not having the best, not being the best, and not able to do what others were privileged to do because their parents had funds. Time to put your feet on the ground and dream big ladies because you can do and be ANYTHING you put your mind to. There are no overnight cures to being the YOU you want to be but there is a beautiful journey ahead.
Let’s see where we need to dig deep and find our blocks.
No. 1 – That voice in your head
Your inner voice is so judgmental on a personal level. Being mindful of these thoughts is the first step to changing them. Sit in silence for a while and see how many thoughts drift in and out. Are they good thoughts? Positive thoughts? Negative thoughts? In the coming days we will put together a guide to be mindful and link it here to come back to when you need a refresher.
No. 2 – Core beliefs might be hidden
Growing up if you heard money doesn’t grow on trees all the time you are more than likely an adult that thinks you need to work hard for money. If you were raised in a broken family then you unconsciously might think that people you love will leave you. These beliefs and so many of the core beliefs instilled during childhood can hold you back. Let’s take a journey in the next few days to help over come these false beliefs.
No. 3 – You parents were critical
A good childhood in most eyes is a nice home, going everywhere you wanted to go, and parents that stayed together. You were able to play the sports you wanted, you were able to go to friends houses, vacations were a yearly thing but…..
Did you parents every tell you great job with your the but on the end? Did your parents ever go to every game and love to watch you play without criticism? Were you always told be be smarter, quieter, more active, or favor another sibling? These could all be symptoms of your parents not knowing how to love you because they have their own unresolved issues.
We become adults with no self worth because we push the real you deep down in order to fix in the box our parents wanted us to.
No. 4 – Negative Nancy’s all around
Surrounding yourself with people who are always negative and always putting you down is a fantastic way to not feel like enough. Break free of those relationships or set new boundaries that you refuse to be broken.
No. 5 – Trauma in your past
If a child experiences trauma in their young years, such as physical or sexual abuse, the can feel responsible for that thinking they are bad or worthless and deserved it.
No. 6 – Unreliable parent(s)
If you were a child that didn’t feel safe at home because of a parent who couldn’t responsibly provide for you it could have lead to you feeling unworthy. If you were good enough at home then maybe your parent wouldn’t drink so much, maybe they would work to provide food for the table, maybe they wouldn’t drive and drink with you in the back seat. When you can’t change their behavior by being a good kid you feel like a failure and that can lead to your adult years.
In the coming days let’s dig into ways to over come these childhood battles so that we can start doing what we were put on this earth for……..SHINE MY BEAUTIFUL SOULS like the god lord intended! I hope you will join me in this journey to peace.